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		<description><![CDATA[Whats Love Got To Do With It Are men capable of love? Is this a stupid question or what? Are we all human beings? Are all human being capable of letting this emotion run its course? All of these are questions women ask themselves on a daily basis. I want to officially state that of [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="announcement_post"><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><strong><span lang="EN-US">Whats Love Got To Do With It</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">Are men capable of love? Is this a stupid question or what? Are we all human beings? Are all human being capable of letting this emotion run its course? All of these are questions women ask themselves on a daily basis. I want to officially state that of course men can fall in love. If you want proof of this fact, feel free to ask couples who have been together for years. It takes love and commitment from both men and women in order to see that anyone is capable of love.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">Women at various times within their lives after soured relationships will swear on the fact that all men are incapable of love. This is just a bitter opinion from someone who has been scorned and this opinion should not be taken seriously for men are just as capable of love as women are and this might seem surprising but men want love the same as women.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">If you find yourself going through men as if you are a hot knife going through butter, you must step back from the dating scene while examining yourself. Have you ever thought that at the end of the countless relationships you have endured that you might be the problem and not men? I am not stating that men are perfect for we all understand that no one is perfect but when you are in a countless cycle of breakups, one should realize that the problem more than likely lies within as compared to the gender of men.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">I would suggest that with each new relationship you find yourself in that initially friendship is focused on. Friendship is a great foundation for any relationship and focusing on friendship in the beginning allows you to be prepared in case things fall through. Men are very much capable of letting this emotion run its course but men desire the need for nurturing and bonding the same as women.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">You must realize that just because a man is not perfect, this does not mean he is incapable of love. You must not place unrealistic expectations on a man for when you perform this task, you will ultimately find disappointment. Men are not only capable of this but also making mistakes. When something turns wrong in the relationship it is always best to attempt to talk things through on a mature level. If you ever want to view how a man truly acts to situations, all one has to do is view his mannerisms during times of atrocities.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">You must accept the fact that everyone is human and if he has not cheated on you or tried to harm you or other major atrocities, more times to none, these predicaments can be worked out in calm manners.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">Do not place stereotypes on men. Men within our current society detest the unfair stereotypes which are placed  </span><span lang="EN-US">upon them. Some women will state that you should not have sex with a man right away. This thinking is very old fashioned and not realistic within our current times. I have news for women, men want to have sex. I feel both parties involved should wait for sexual relations to </span><span lang="EN-US">occur but not on the grounds that women are purposely withholding sex. Sex should be withheld due to the fact that when it&#8217;s right, it&#8217;s right and not when society determines its right.</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">Men are capable of love. You should understand that just because things turned sour in a relationship with one man does not mean that another man cannot and will not love you. Men experience the feelings of love and commitment the same as women therefore, through out the stereotypes and focus on the now as compared to the past where you failed at love. Men should not be blamed for the failures of women and vice versa. Men and women should view one another as equals within the dating scene and this allows an equal opportunity for both genders to fall in love while experiencing long-lasting relationships</span><span lang="EN-US">. Pink is often associated with Roses, love and emotional healing. February symbolizes love and emotional love. Emotional healing is an integral part of the journey in all Realms. There is only love or fear. Love is stronger than fear based thoughts of lack, doubt, despair. Love heals, fear increases fear. Love is a gift, fear drains positive energy.</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">*Love based thoughts or emotions: happiness, unconditional love, love of the Self, love for others, total acceptance, judgment free, joy, bliss, abundance, serenity.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">*Fear based thoughts or emotions: lack, doubt, anger, disappointment, disapproval, judgment, conditional love, loss, hate, envy, jealousy.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">There is no-thing greater than love. There is no-thing greater than unconditional love, total acceptance of you and others with all our flaws </span><span lang="EN-US">, all our nicks, dings and dents. The key is to surrender the fear of being un-loved, un-lovable. You are whole complete and perfect now this moment. You are loved beyond measure.</span></span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">*Spiritual Properties: align emotional, physical, mental and Spiritual bodies, increased intuition</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Being willing to heal trust issues, feelings of insecurity, will enable you to release past heartache, opening the way before you to experience a life filled with love and compassion. Yes, you may encounter unpleasant experiences as you travel the path along your journey. Know you have the tools to overcome  <a href="http://www.business-supply.com/c-321-vertical-file-cabinets.aspx"><span style="color: #888888;">vertical filing cabinet</span></a> and dissolve blockages, self-limiting beliefs of not having all you desire to receive and to give to another in the name of love.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><strong>Think About It </strong></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Love at the very essence is an emotion. There are many kinds of definition to what love and emotion is. But Emotion in the purest form is simply Energy In Motion (E-Motion). Feeling is Perception of Emotion. You may not be conscious  <a href="http://www.advanceloan.net"><span style="color: #888888;">www.advanceloan.net</span></a> of an emotion but it still runs by itself in your subconscious. Love is the highest level of energy that exists. God always move out of love because God is love. Love is the purest motive force. Love is God in Motion.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">A person might not feel love anymore. But love is still there. It is just buried under other emotions of anger, hurt  <a href="http://www.pronto800.it/"><span style="color: #888888;">numero verde</span></a> and fear. Layers of other emotions can override the feeling of love but once these emotions are engaged and liberated instead of being avoided and resisted, the love is able to be felt once again. A person who is Authentic can always cut through all the other emotions and get right to love itself and know that it is always there and feel it.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">To love is to accept. To accept oneself is to love oneself. You can&#8217;t accept if you judge. You have to accept without judging. Accept the good and the bad with equal love.</span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Love is acceptance, therefore love is trust. To trust is to accept as true. When something you accept as true turns out to be false, you can be hurt. That is why when you love, you can be hurt if what you accept as true turns out to be otherwise. The truer  <a href="http://fashion-merchandising-schools.org"><span style="color: #888888;">fashion merchandising</span></a> the love, the more what you accept as true is the essence rather than the form. The deeper your love is for a person, the more you are actually in love with the person&#8217;s core.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Love is happiness. To love is to be happy with. When you go for what makes you happy, you are following what you love.</span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">There are four factors that defines love. They are the type, level, intensity and depth of love.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">There are different types of love. You can love someone as a friend, you can love someone as a cousin/sister/brother. You can love someone with the love of the lord. You can love someone as a superstar you adore. You can love someone as the love of your life.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">There are different levels of love. How much agape is present in that love? Agape varies in different amounts. To what extent do you have the person&#8217;s best interest at heart. To what extent do you naturally consider their needs without first being conscious of yours? How much care do you have for them?</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">There are different intensities of love. The amount of passion, the amount of fire and the amount of energy that  <a href="http://www.lifeinsurance-quotes.co.za/"><span style="color: #888888;">Life Insurance Quotes</span></a>  you have in your love for that person determines the intensity of that love. How much force is there, how much power and how much focus? Is it like a flood of warm sunlight shining on that person or is it like a laser beam completely targeted and burning ferociously  <a href="http://www.CoopersPick.com"><span style="color: #888888;">Free Sports Picks</span></a> with such intensity and fire?</span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Love is the purest motive force. Love is the most authentic reason for action. There is nothing else that matters. Love is the force that will not only pull you to that which you love but will also pull that which you  <a href="http://www.mychildrensbedroomfurniture.com"><span style="color: #888888;">bedroom furniture</span></a> love to you. So it is never in vain to love that which you love for love will always have an effect in bringing the thing or person you love closer to you.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Do not attempt to create too many entanglements in a relationship in order to make the two of you inseparable. The only force that keeps the two of you  together should be purely love. There is no relationship more secure than one in which either party can choose to leave at anytime and live separately without much trouble, but both choose to be together because of love. This is the kind of  relationship where unconditional love which is love without strings attached, can be experienced fully.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">The less attachments there are binding a relationship, the more authentic it is. The only bond that should increase is the bond of love. Only the greatest, deepest and truest love creates a bond that is eternally inseparable. The best entanglement in a relationship is divine entanglement. When the only force that bring two people together after they have separated is God, through  <a href="http://www.locksmithsinbrisbane.com.au"><span style="color: #888888;">locksmith Brisbane</span></a> events of synchronicities, that shows that they are God&#8217;s choice for each other. It&#8217;s the most beautiful thing to realize.</span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Physical</span><br />
<span style="color: #888888;"> Mental</span><br />
<span style="color: #888888;"> Emotional</span><br />
<span style="color: #888888;"> Spiritual</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Our instinctual self calls us to connect and celebrate our intimate relationship, to let go of outdated, conditioned inhibitions and to experience each other with profundity, conscious awareness and honesty. The time has come for us to communicate on a level of existence that raises us high above the lower mental planes. We are in an age and a time that challenges us personally and as couples to look deeply into our selves. We have to wake up and realize that our relationship problems arise from our own personal  <a href="http://iphone5release.org"><span style="color: #888888;">iphone 5</span></a> unresolved emotional issues. Unresolved emotions are so harmful to the body mind system, they become a barrier to our self-understanding, personal development, conscious awareness and our spiritual evolution. These stored negative  <a href="http://www.paydayloan.com/"><span style="color: #888888;">cash advance</span></a> emotions we unwittingly carry around in the very cells of our body mind system and they are contributing factors to relationship breakdowns.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Anger</span><br />
<span style="color: #888888;"> Fear</span><br />
<span style="color: #888888;"> Sadness</span><br />
<span style="color: #888888;"> Hurt</span><br />
<span style="color: #888888;"> Guilt</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Love relationships challenge us to face our emotional issues</span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Understand Loves First Bloom</span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">You become stuck in a reoccurring cycles of self-sabotaging emotional co-dependent behaviour.</span><br />
<span style="color: #888888;"> You love each other and want to work through the problems, but not sure how to.</span><br />
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Cause and Effect &#8211; Woundology</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Most love relationships are bonded and established on the foundation of emotional hurt, or wounds. Caroline Myss calls this our woundology. During  <a href="http://www.reversephonelookup.org"><span style="color: #888888;">reverse phone lookup</span></a>  childhood we model behaviour from the people close to us. Unfortunately, many love relationships are established on the foundations of outdated ingrained patterns from our childhood conditioning, our personal experiences of how we think, feel and model what we believe &#8216;love&#8217; should be. Our parent&#8217;s relationship is our first experience of how male and female interacts. If you were born to emotionally stable parents that maintained  <a href="http://www.cabdirect.com"><span style="color: #888888;">taxi sales</span></a> a balanced loving relationship the odds are that you have modeled their positive behaviour, beliefs and values about love.</span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Now, if it never went any further than a dating type relationship, then fine, go your separate ways and find someone else. If, however, this was a long term relationship where you either were living together or actually took the plunge and got married, then that is another matter. Perhaps you were not aware of what love really is and just what part it plays in a relationship.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Rather than starting with what love is, we should clarify what it is not. It is not just an emotion. Emotions come  <a href="http://www.selectioncriteriaexampleswriter.com.au"><span style="color: #888888;">selection criteria</span></a>  and go, real love does not. Love stays for the long haul and, in fact, continues to grow stronger through the years and through the trials. </span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">The key is to remember, when going through the lows in emotions, is that this too will pass. While you may not &#8220;feel&#8221; in love, you must still continue to do the things  <a href="http://www.woodburyhousefurniture.com.au/office-furniture.html"><span style="color: #888888;">Office Furniture</span></a>  that love does. Paying attention to your partner, complimenting them, giving impromptu gifts for no reason, offering to help out now and then and so on. You should also schedule time alone together to go out on a &#8220;date&#8221; and rekindle the emotional connection.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Make sure that you are not doing things that can dampen the emotional side of love. Some things that we do, without realizing until too late, are  <a href="http://www.slow-computer-solution.com/regcure.html"><span style="color: #888888;">Regcure</span></a> often simple and small, but have a huge impact over time. Have you been making snide remarks, criticizing your partner in front of others? Have you not noticed when they did something nice for you? Is most  <a href="http://www.myweddingdayweightloss.com/"><span style="color: #888888;">wedding weight loss</span></a> of your communication of a negative nature rather than a positive one? Do you often find fault in what your partner does and rarely, if ever, comment on how well they did a task? Do you often take them for granted?</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Once you accept that loving someone is more of a commitment to them than it is an emotion, you take the relationship to a different level. A level that is more permanent and long lasting than the emotional level you started out with. Emotions can lie to us and confuse us, but true lasting love is rooted in the <a href="http://kennengmbh.com/"><span style="color: #888888;">недвижимость в Германии</span></a> commitment of one person to another. Real love is patient, kind and not jealous, it is not arrogant, does not provoke another, it endures and never fails and is not easily offended. An emotional love cannot live up to  <a href="http://www.bestlocksmithmelbourne.com.au/"><span style="color: #888888;">locksmiths melbourne</span></a> that kind of definition unless it is supported by a true commitment of one to another.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><strong>Living With Love </strong></span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">If you sincerely want to enjoy and experience Love then you are going to want to continue reading this article  <a href="http://www.milkbug.co.uk/Breastfeeding-dresses/"><span style="color: #888888;">breastfeeding dress</span></a> in order to discover why Love is a state of being and not an emotion.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Love &#8211; Why Love is a State of Being, Not an Emotion</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">Believe it or not, it is amazing how a simple change in belief to fit the reality of this moment now in the experience of being human can change your life in so many </span><span lang="EN-US">different ways.</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">Growing up under the influence of romanticized Love on the TV and Radio I was led to believe that Love was an emotion that was so strong that you would and could do anything under its influence.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">Yet, deep down in my core it never took hold even though it  <a href="http://www.marketing-lists-direct.com/mailing-list/marketing-mailing-lists.htm"><span style="color: #888888;">mailing lists</span></a> sounded nice in a cheesy kind of way. But no matter how hard I tried TV shows, movies, radio, and even some books were more than happy to show me the Power of Emotional Love.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: 'Calibri', 'sans-serif';" lang="EN-US">My experience of this &#8220;Emotional Love&#8221; was an empty one as I didn&#8217;t feel this emotional Love and found it interesting at just </span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: 'Calibri', 'sans-serif';" lang="EN-US">how easy it was to manipulate in whichever way I felt was necessary at the time in order to get what I want.</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">I was closed off from this emotional kind of Love because I was closed off from my emotions in part because my experience was that Love had the power to hurt because we all are just  </span><a href="http://www.flagdiscounter.com/products/state-flags"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">state flags for sale</span></a><span lang="EN-US"> human and Love never can and never will change that.</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">Then I found Yoga and as I went deeper and deeper into my practice, I awoke one day to the state of being in Love. Only I didn&#8217;t want it and I couldn&#8217;t get rid of it, no matter how hard I tried to deny it the stronger it became.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">This reawaken state of being in Love and not knowing any better I attached it to someone else because that is what I had been led  </span><a href="http://www.deepcyclesolarbatteries.com.au/"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">solar power</span></a><span lang="EN-US"> to believe the Emotion of Love was all about. And I struggled with it, as day after day I saw flaw after flaw in this Human that I was in Love with. This Love was strong and there was nothing I could do about it, even in the pain, and the desire for it to be something other than what it is.</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">Finally, one day someone directed me to what Love really is that state of Being and where to find it.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">They told me to go deep within and Love with all my heart that someone and so I did. At first I meditated on Love with her and began to let go of  </span><a href="http://www.aboutpassengervehicles.com/what-are-7-passenger-vehicles/"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">7 passenger vehicles</span></a><span lang="EN-US"> the desire, lust, and expectations. I was in the state of being in Love with what is as it is in this moment; no wants, no desires. Just this moment of being Love and in the State of Being Love!</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">As I opened to this state fully no longer could it simply contain the one I was Love with as it soon began to consume all, I became  </span><a href="http://www.webuyhomes.com.au"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">Kerrie Kelso</span></a><span lang="EN-US"> one with this State and realized I am Love, Big Love.</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">The more I meditate on Love the more I open to the state of Being Love with all that is as it is. </span>In the end, this experience of being Love has shown me how the emotion of Love filled with lust, desire, and want is nothing compared  <a href="http://www.advice-hunters.co.uk/advice/Best-Mortgage-Rates/"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">best mortgage rates</span></a><span lang="EN-US"> to the state of Being Love in this moment just as it is now.In our society it&#8217;s common to revere the brain&#8217;s intelligence and see the emotions as loose cannons we need to control. This view has caused us to forget other forms of intelligence that can take us where the brain never will.</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">The brain is unparalleled in its ability to analyze and sort information, but it prefers to keep the status quo rather than take a chance on new information. The brain goes into panic mode when we bring up the subject of love because experiencing love requires the brain to surrender  </span><a href="http://easydiamondguide.com"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">Engagement ring settings</span></a><span lang="EN-US"> control. The brain hates vulnerability, but the courageous heart has an intelligence of its own that will take us where the brain fears to tread.</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">Neuroscientists have discovered the heart contains at least forty thousand neurons, which rivals subcortical centers in the brain. We&#8217;ve all been taught that the brain is the command center of the body, but scientists have recently discovered  </span><a href="http://www.landofrugs.co.uk"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">rugs</span></a> <span lang="EN-US">that the heart also sends signals to the brain. When the heart sends a message to the brain, it obeys. When the brain sends a message to the heart it weighs the brain&#8217;s message according to its own brand of logic and then chooses whether or not it will comply.</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">Doc Childre and Howard Martin of the Institute of HeartMath write, &#8220;The heart isn&#8217;t only open to new possibilities, it actively scans for them. The intelligence of the heart acts as an impetus for what some scientists call qualia-our experience of the  </span><a href="GERD%20Diet"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">GERD Diet</span></a><span lang="EN-US"> feelings and qualities of love, compassion, non-judgment, tolerance, patience and forgiveness.&#8221; However, the heart&#8217;s emotional intelligence has nothing to do with sloppy sentimentality.</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">Emotional intelligence is not about being emotional. Being emotional can best be understood as the polar opposite of extreme logic. When the brain is in charge, we&#8217;re logical, rational, analytical, and put our feelings aside. When we&#8217;re being emotional, energy rushes through the body even  <a href="http://samsungrv510.co.uk/"><span style="color: #888888;">samsung rv510</span></a> faster than we can think, and sets off a complex physical reaction. When the emotions are in charge, we&#8217;re erratic, irrational and perceive everything through our feelings.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;" lang="EN-US">Many who believe they&#8217;re following their heart have instead become slaves to the chemical cocktail the body prepares in response to emotion. Obviously, the extremes of logic and sentimentality both cause problems. We&#8217;ve all observed people  <a href="http://druckmaschinenservice.com/"><span style="color: #888888;">druckmaschinen service</span></a> who seemed to be stuck at either end of the pendulum or those who swing violently back and forth between the two. Most try to strike a balance between the brain and the emotions, but that&#8217;s like trying to keep oil and water mixed. Unfortunately  <a href="http://www.safeandsoundpropertyinspections.com.au/"><span style="color: #888888;">Building Inspections Melbourne</span></a> the heart is silent unless we purposely listen to it, but the brain keeps up its incessant chatter whether we want to hear it or not.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;"><span lang="EN-US">The emotional intelligence available to us through the heart has nothing to do with being emotional. It&#8217;s about accessing an intelligence that goes beyond logic, one that&#8217;s connected to the Divine. Rumi explains, &#8220;There is a rope of light between  <a href="http://almvirtual.com/"><span style="color: #888888;">refrigerator water filters</span></a> your heart and [the Divine] that nothing can weaken or break, and it is always in His hands.&#8221; </span>The brain will keep us rooted to the earth but the emotional intelligence we access through the heart is a gateway to transcendent love. </span><span style="color: #888888;">This love</span>  <span style="color: #888888;"><a href="http://couponsforolivegarden.com"><span style="color: #888888;">Coupons for Olive Garden</span></a> isn&#8217;t an emotion or a commodity that we give or receive; it&#8217;s an all-encompassing state of being that connects us to God.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #888888;">Spiritual masters have always taught that &#8220;God is love&#8221; and we are meant to experience that love in its fullness. The love they were speaking of has nothing to do with judgment </span><span style="color: #888888;">or  </span><span style="color: #888888;"><a href="http://www.fourwindsinteractive.com/digital-signage-software/"><span style="color: #888888;">digital signage software</span></a></span><span style="color: #888888;"> vengeance, but is offered without conditions or limitations. We can connect with divine love when we quiet the brain and begin to listen to what the heart has to say. No matter how much the brain protests, at our innermost core our greatest desire is to give and receive love. In its effort to </span><span style="color: #888888;"> <a href="http://www.myfbbanners.com"><span style="color: #888888;">facebook banners</span></a> protect itself, the brain has taught us that love hurts. Listen to the heart and discover that Divine love contains no pain and offers complete safety, joy and peace. </span></p>
<p><span style="color: #888888;">It does not give up no matter what trials come along. The reason for this is that love is really a commitment rather than an  </span><span style="color: #888888;"><a href="http://www.berliner-paintball-shop.de/"><span style="color: #888888;">paintball shop</span></a></span><span style="color: #888888;"> emotion. It is the commitment that keeps the relationship going through thick and thin, not an emotion that can be here today and gone tomorrow.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #888888;">All long term relationships go through ups and downs in the emotional aspects. You often go from feeling head over heels to not feeling anything at all depending on the circumstances, and events surrounding you and your partner. Having been married for over 36 years, I can personally attest to this. It is the underlying commitment to your partner that pulls you through the bumps and over the ravines life puts in your path.</span></p>
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